Back in school they used to ask us what we wanted to become when we’d grow up.
We had to write it down on a paper and pass it on to someone else.Most people wrote down lawyer or doctor or psychologist. Mine simply read “father” .
Back then, I had a clear image on how I was going to raise my children. I was going to homeschool them and drill them until they turned into prodigies in whatever field they would eventually specialize in. I would make it my personal mission to see them succeed… where I felt I’d failed. We often want our kids to live the life we wanted.
For me, the very event of becoming a father changed all that. Children are often compared to flowers. They are born with an infinite amount of potential yet they all develop in unique ways. Once I realized this, I decided that it was not my task to prune the flower to my own desires but to nurture it and let it grow free. Being a parent then becomes an amazing experience where we get to see actual people grow into themselves! Let’s love and accept our children for who they are we instead of focusing on who’d we want them to be.