It’s no secret to anyone who knows me that the hormonal changes associated with pregnancy and breastfeeding have enhanced my B/C cup sized breasts to an E/F. It’s also no secret to anyone that I find this to be a nuisance and that I cannot wait for them to shrink back to a C one day, hopefully soon.
What most people don’t know about though is the amount of scrutiny I face on a daily basis simply because of the fact that I am somewhat lager
chested. This on top of the fact that I have to drag these heavy balloons with me all day long while trying to fit in clothes clearly not designed with the mature female form in mind… Not a comfortable situation, I assure you.
I have always had large-ish boobs.. Growing up there were a lot of comments that I didn’t know how to place or respond to. Navigating a patriarchal society without a strong basis of bodily knowledge and self esteem and without anyone to guide you is not an easy task. Especially if you don’t know anything about patriarchy, societal bias, sexism and anything else relevant to a young woman’s life to begin with. So since I had no proper coping tools I just accepted the terms that were imposed on me. I took it for a fact that at 11, more than 6 years before I actually lost my virginity, I was clearly ‘the sex princess’ and a ‘slut’..
I kinda get it, you know! I get the fact that it’s confusing for all of us to grow up in such a divided society. Sex is obviously part of the human experience yet, to a lot of people, somehow still a taboo… Therefore, breasts, as the symbol of female sexuality, are shameful and dirty.
On the train the other day, a very friendly older woman warned me: ‘ Cover yourself! You don’t want to attract that kind of attention!’
I was wearing a plain, regular tank top but thanks to my plump bosom I was inadvertently showing some cleavage. Upon hearing her comments I instantly and in shame started pulling up my top. And than I glanced at my daughters sitting beside me and I stopped. Yes, I am scared of being raped, and yes, I still carry loads of internalized body shame with me, but these are not the lessons I want to pass on unto my children.
Bodies are great, cleavages are acceptable. Showing some skin is not murder and it will not get you raped!
Have you ever been body shamed? Share your thoughts and experiences freely in the comments section bellow. 👇😘