As a waiter I come in contact with a variety of people. Nearly every layer of society is represented in the individuals that pass through at my workplace. Usually, I consider this to be quite enriching. Unfortunately, yesterday I had a different experience. I was witness to one of the few things that can really get my blood boiling.
A young couple and their three children took a seat at one of the tables I had to wait on. They had a teenage boy, a daughter of around Jade’s age and another son of perhaps two.
Soon after they sat down I heard threats and shouting.
The three kids were each in need of some attention and their parents were clearly having a hard time dealing with it.
These people, who had otherwise been very polite and nice during the process of placing their order, were now acting like monsters towards their children! They were treating them as though everything that didn’t go perfectly was their fault.
I turned my back to get their drinks and when I returned I heard the little girl cry. I glanced over at her and that’s when I noticed that she had been slapped!
What on earth could possibly drive a human being to hurt his or her own children? How powerless and clueless must one feel and be to resort to such crude and inhumane ways of ‘keeping children in line’? What crime could possibly be considered big enough for them to be deserving of such treatment?
It’s true that being a gentle parent doesn’t always come easy. It especially gets hard when you feel drained or have you own struggles and unmet needs to deal with. As with everything else in life there is a learning curve and it’s full of ups and downs. Making mistakes is obviously part of that learning process.
This is why we shouldn’t judge but instead always uplift and support one another in this quest towards becoming more respectful human beings. That being said, choosing to deliberately abuse anyone is just not acceptable! Statements as ‘an educational slap is ok’ I just have a really hard time dealing with! When I hear people speak like that I often wish I could educate them with one! ( Not very gentle of me I know, but witnessing the mistreatment of littles makes me lose my gentleness! )
Why are people so narrow minded?
I get that change is hard. Humanity still has a long way to go. So for now, fellow gentle parents, let’s lead by example!