Yesterday something happened to me that, quite frankly, really got my blood boiling. We were having a family outing by train. It was hot, sweaty weather and by the time we were ready to return the kids were some what cranky and tired.
We were all seated on a bench, waiting for our train to arrive, when an older lady approached. She took a seat next to us and started to complain. She was claiming to have called out to me several times to help her carry her suitcase up the stairs. Both Nina and I hadn’t heard a thing. The old lady was very insulting, insisting we had ignored her on purpose! At first we kept reassuring her that that wasn’t the case but after we saw it didn’t make a difference we addressed her entitlement. Nina explained basic human etiquette and than politely asked her to quit scorning us.
It is always ok to ask for help. It is also ok to be upset when no one hears you. But at no point is anyone obligated to help you out. Most of the times people will, of course. But even when they don’t you have no right to insult them. It’s their prerogative to refuse.
As though she didn’t hear it she went on with her complaints mumbling something about an operation.
Every one around us was as shocked as we were. After witnessing her behavior no one was open to help her get her suitcase on the train. Nina felt sorry for her so she offered to. And guess what? She didn’t even get a thank you for it.
Honestly, Nina’s choice upset me. I felt like after the way she treated us she didn’t deserve our help. And the fact that she didn’t even
thank Nina proved my point. I’m very much an eye for an eye kind of guy. I believe in kindness, but I also believe it is waisted on some people.
They act like they are somehow entitled to it when in reality they are not. Kindness is given, not demanded. And all the while my generation gets labeled as ‘entitled’. 😐
What do you think? Do you think Nina did the right thing? Or do you agree with my view?